UU Minister Man-Head
I saw this photo on the celebrity fashion-dish blog "Go Fug Yourself" and screamed. Do we not all know a Unitarian Universalist male minister who has manscaping exactly like this?
WE DO.
And it's time it STOPPED.
This look, which I am just now dubbing "Swinging Seventies Pastor," is DATED, boys! It's time to cut the hair shorter -- I know, you have fabulous flowing locks and you want to show them off, but if you're doing a beard and 'stache at the same time, you CAN'T.
I know my boys are partial to their facial hair, but given that a HUGE percentage of our clergy have it, wouldn't it be cool if more of our guys put away the stereotypical grooming habits of the past just, you know, to see how it feels?
You can always grow it back, right?
Meanwhile, I'm not even mentioning the horrors of this outfit.
Gee, I must be feeling better! Stomach flu seems to agree with me!
posted by PeaceBang at 9:08 PM
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This is an old photo, right? You're kidding us, right? The photo is really from the 70's,right? -- a minister doing a disco ministry or going to Esalen or something like that, right?
Right?
He's an Actor!!! From 2007! This photo was taken just the other day!
Kumbaya!
I think that his dad posed in "the joy of sex" from the 1970's.
I think if my minister looked anything like this, I'd automatically assume he was sort of creepy in a "sexual healing" sort of way.
So, my hair has been the subject of some conversation at my congregation (I'm the ministerial intern). It's wavy/curly, ranges from chin length to shoulder length, and although it's by no means wild, it's also definitely not set in place. So, how "done" do we think women ministers need to have their hair? Blow dried smooth? Pinned in place? Is a little bit of wavy, curly, carefree-ness just fine, or does it indicate that I'm not pulling it together? I should add that I'm white and in my mid-twenties, and I work hard to look polished and just a little fun (think Ann Taylor and low heels with chunky beads or vintage scarves).
That's Ronn Moss!! Most of the time he looks better than that. He must have been either coming from or going to band rehersal. (for those who don't know or remember, he was a member of the 70s band Player)
What I'm trying to figure out is what is up with that thing around his neck? Was it supposed to be an ascot?
"...wouldn't it be cool if more of our guys put away the stereotypical grooming habits of the past just, you know, to see how it feels?"
To see how it feels?
As if we don't remember? Or for that matter, the "joy" of scraping a blade over your face at least once a day; complete with nicks, cuts...?
Thanks, no.
Dear Ogre,
My brother, who has a very thick growth of beard but is clean-shaven and has skin he wants to keep sane, uses an electric shaver, I am not sure what brand, but he has had problems with neither nicks nor cuts and he finds it works for him just fine. He looks good, too :-). Ditto our mustachio'd father, whose hair growth is less dense but whose skin is much more delicate. I know it took them a while before finding the right electric shaver, but they've got great ones.
I'm not against beards, by the way. (Caroline Divine pensively reviews the faces of boyfriends past in her head.) I'm just saying that if you want to be clean-shaven, there are ways not to suffer, from what I've seen from the menfolk in my immediate family over the decades.
I have to say that the guy in PeaceBang's photo TOTALLY creeps me out. I agree with Madgebaby.
Amanda, it's hard to say as a general rule. If your hair is styled out of your face, if your general grooming is good, and if your presentation doesn't say, "Here Comes My HAIR," there shouldn't be an issue.
I wonder why there's conversation about it? Why do you think that is?
I've noticed that if a professional woman's eyebrows are well-groomed, she can get away with wilder hair and not look "undone."
Thanks, PB. I'm lucky to have naturally well-defined and low-key eyebrows, so maybe that helps. I'm not sure why people are talking about my hair...and I should say it's not a major topic of conversation, but there have been a few comments. I think partly it's being in a suburban congregation with older folks who went to hairdressers to have their hair set when they were my age. And then, sometimes people just need something to talk about, and that's ok. I just hadn't considered that it might look a little unkempt...I think I'll ask some minister friends and think more about whether it's projecting youthful and energetic or just not pulled together. It's tricky, because it's partly a political issue for me--women have been straightening their hair for so long, trying to look more WASPy. So I don't want to buy into that...but on the other hand, I think there are ways to do curls/waves that look polished and I might just not be hitting the nail on the head. So to speak. Tee hee.
Thanks for responding, and sorry for this long ramble...
That man is VERY handsome, although the blouse, neck scarf and pants are really awful.
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, Peacebang, nooooo! Please don't encourage more men to shave off their beards. A lot of men have wobbly chins (or recessed chins, or rounded jawlines) and those beards are very necessary to giving them some definition.
I wish my sweetie could grow a beard (I make offerings to the facial hair goddess weekly; it's working slowly), and my dad has had one for 30 years. I don't like the bias against men with beards (e.g. people find them less trustworthy than men without). Also, a lot of black men need to stop shaving their faces because of terrible skin reactions to razors, but they persist in it due to social pressures.
Let's encourage healthy faces, and facial choices!
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